Are you remaining open to possible reconcilation with your husband, even post-D if necessary, if she could clean up his act and demonstrate consistency in that regard?
Do you still love him?
Hard questions for what's supposed to be a casual Friday, I know . . . so shoot me.
Starsky
I don't know the answers to that at this point Starsky. I do know that he is currently not choosing to change some of those behaviors and in fact is using this time to do them more often. Sad, but true.
I just know that I am doing what is right for me and for the boys now and that is all I can focus on.
We have found a way to co-parent so far, and I know the kids feel the tension is way less. For that I am very happy.
In fact, just this morning STBX sent me an email to see if I was interested in splitting our vacation rental so that the kids get a full week. We would each take/pay for half the week.
To be honest, I think that would be tough and possibly confusing for the kids. Too many memories of family time there. But I asked him if I could think it over and get back to him. He appreciated it.
I truly hope we continue getting along this way, it is best for all involved.
Originally Posted By: Truegritter
You will know without a doubt when you are done. Until then keep going for you.
I do know for sure that I am done with this, as it is now. This marriage has been over for some time, as it is completely unhealthy for all. I crossed my own boundaries in an effort to have an intact family, and I will never do that again.
I can't think of anything that would make me want to reconcile at this point. I do hope he gets healthy some day, for himself and for the boys. I don't wish anything bad for him. I just wish happiness for me.
