Hi, I just have a chat with my spouse through whatsapp. Below is our communication details

Me: I miss GR (our son) can I go over to see him later.

Spouse: u call my home first to see if they're around.

Me: .... Think i will go another day in that case

Spouse: u want me to help u call them?

Me: idk

Spouse: what do you want?

Me: I want to see him but i don't know what to do (I have a conflict with father in law)

Spouse: u need me to call home to see if they are home?

Me: never mind, I am not ready too.

Spouse: I am sorry. I know GR needs me and I miss him lot. But I dont know what to do.

............after a while..............

Me: I go town buy book or toys for him.

............few hours later..........

Me: Bought this toy giraffe for our son today ( I send her the picture)

Spouse: she send me a picture of a baby chair bought from ikea.

Me: from ikea? Be careful idea thing sometime not stable.

Spouse: we will always supervise him.

Me: ya be careful.

Me: I am thinking of buying him a playground toy from toys r us ( include picture), what do u think?

Spouse: this can be rent.

Me: I want to buy him as a gift. You think I should not buy?

Spouse: rent will be more practical. It takes up space. U going to bring it back to bedok in future (she is referring to after we divorce, we have to sell our house away. So I will be going back to my parent place to stay which is at bedok)

Me: I will buy our house down. In future GR will still be playing here.

Spouse: u got to also buy out what I have paid for the house for the past few years.

Me: we talk about that later, lawyer will settle it for us.

Me: I have one more thing that need to be discuss. By discuss we mean come to term and not argue. Hope you can respect. Do you want to discuss?

Spouse: go ahead

Me: I talk to my counsellor today. It abt this coming public holiday. When I am at your place yesterday, I was immediately being told GR will be going out that day to meet your relative.

Me: now the counsellor say what GR need is the bonding of his parent and he ask me to discuss with you what is right. He got no answer for that' and asked us to discuss.

So from my understanding, he is saying GR us spending less time with parent, dont you think that is the best time for him to be with either parent instead of meeting others?

Spouse: yup he will be with me the whole day

Me: ok

Me: I will get the playground once I get my pay. I am thinking of making one of the room here into his playground. He can at least enjoy until 6-7 years old

......... She did not continue the chat after this..........