WAW roomate is telling me she is moving out..

[hangten]

I'm glad I have to go to work today.
I get home every day at 4pm - 4:30pm. I usually pick up my daughter at MIL house and my s at SIL house. I went to pick up my S on Friday night. My w had started kitchen renos at our house on Thursday. I could not cook, My SIL insisted that the kids stay and eat. I know My SIL wanted to talk as well. I listen to BIL and SIL tell me what I should do. They have not been given any info from my w. I told them I am living a single parent life right now. I do all the cooking and laundry. I do all the kid activities. I care for my w but she is free to go. I will never keep the kids from my w. I value my IL and I care and respect for them as well. I can not leave their lives. SIL has 4 kids that adore my. I told them that I will still be in their lives. I told my SIL that I am worried about My w as she is not her self. My sil and BIL stated that I mean alot to them and told me that that I am welcome at their house anytime. My s and w use to be very close. Since this s my w has been scarce. As I am talking with MIL my w texts me.

W-Hey can't use the kitchen ...Dinner? 6:25pm

If I was at home I would have know that 2 hours ago.
I ignored the message did not want to fight.

w-Did the kids eat yet? 6:54pm
H- Grilled cheese 6:55pm
w- k 7:05 pm
w- Where are you having Grilled cheese? 7:56pm
H- My s said to me since we are getting our kitchen re done that we need to go over to the IL's ..Like they did to us...I with the kids at your sister's 7:57pm
W- Why didn't you tell me u were there earlier? 8:02 pm
H- kids are having fun we will be home shortly 8:06 pm

I know my being at SIL house would cause tension with my w. I did not want her angry but I did want my kids to have fun. the kids were in the back yard catching butterflies. I did not want to take that away from them. My kids are always asking to go over to their cousins house.

My w told me on Friday night that she will be working on Saturday. I told my w that we need to have better communication. I don't ever remember her saying that. My w was convinced that she told me. I know she never did. Anyways I do what I always do. Of course I did not say that to my w.


Well My w took her angry pills on Saturday night and continued to Sunday. I told my w in private away from the kids that please stop snapping at the kids and me. I get that you want to D I will not stop the process. I need you to work with me raising the kids. I do not want the bitterness to get worse with distance. My w agreed and would try.
Sunday Morning I come back from My s hockey tryout. My w was agitated. First time in months I have seem my w do the laundry.We were not fully in the house before my w started yelling at my s from Homework and his room being a mess. My w was slamming the washing machine lid down and throwing the clothes on the floor to fold. My w snapped at my d for lying on the clothes. I stepped in

H- please My w stop. I don't want you to take your anger out on our kids. Take it out on me not them. If you want you can go get a coffee and calm down.

W-so that you can go tell everyone that I don't do anything in the house.
H- I am not score keeping I am doing what needs to be done.I don't care who does the work.
w- where were you for the last 10 years
H- yes you are right I was not doing this 10 years ago.
w- I don't want to be here
h- Please All I want is for you to be there for the kids. I don't want them to hate you like you use to say to me.
w- I haven't been there because of you
h- fine you can't stand me..I am not leaving my kids...I don't expect you to..we both have to find a way to raise our kids together
w- it's not easy.
h- have I been snarky to you..have I lashed out to you
w- no just...you don't get me.


W decided that she wanted to go to have a coffee at starbucks.
I finished the laundry. When she came home my d was mad at her. My d was not told my w was leaving. I let my w explain that.