Kenva, I'm glad you found your way here and hope you'll stick with us b/c you'll get a great support group.
I'm short on time right now, but to answer your question about others being in this type of stitch, I think almost every man here has gone through what you're experiencing (to some degree). Read other threads to gain insight.
Post every day to help build up your support group.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
