Golf mom you have a very good point in regards to receiving love. Yes, when I did talk about having the "love tank" full I was referring to Gary Chapmans book 5 Love Languages. I have that book and I really like it. I even have it for Teenagers, because my girls are growing and I want to make sure Im filling their love tank.
I know this sounds like a crazy question, but how does one NOT receive or accept love, purposely? You know the year before Xh left I was consistently showing him and giving him love the best I knew how and in the ways I knew he did like. I had read the book. He REJECTED EVERYTHING I DID. Everything. Then during the time of leaving, projected and said that I never did anything to make him feel loved or appreciated. During a small time when he did let the wall down he did admit to rejecting my acts of love because he was terribly afraid of rejection by me.
I too have been curious as to how things will play out after the dust settles. I see my Ex either doing two things. He goes through the Euphoria as snodderly said will happen. Or he actually goes through a depression and reality starts to smack him in the face. Or a little of both.
I say this because I know XH. He will just go about his merry way in complete denial of reality, up until reality literally bits him in the A$$ and he has NO CHOICE but to face reality. Then it's horrible depression and self loathing. I've seen him do this MANY TIME during our marriage. But then again if OW is there to distract him, he may not even notice.
I am not capable of rejecting love when it's offered.
I just don't understand that, and it breaks my heart to think that some people are so dysfunctional that they feel they have to do that. If the day comes that XH realizes the real love that he purposely threw away....I shudder to think what that will do to him.
