One other comment that H made during our convo in the cafe today seemed significant. It related to the fact that:
Yesterday, D16 texted H at dinner time to say that we were having roast beef and would he like to come over for dinner. The kids haven't seen H for a while and it was the last night of school holidays.
He texted back that he was covering an (expensive) shift answering phones and could not.
The background to this request is that Sunday night dinners were always our big family roast nights.
Up until a few months ago, h was still dropping by and staying to eat with us and watch a movie.
Today, he openly cried and asked me not to let the kids ask him for dinner any more as "I just can't handle it".
What does this say about where he is in the process?
I am SO confused.
I am focusing on living my own life as if he is no longer here, but these mixed messages keep bringing me down.
