Only you know the bond that you created between yourself and SS.
While I believe I have an amazing relationship with D14, all things considered... We all still know that I am not her bio dad... that card has never been played by her, but that's not to say it couldn't... Even if she did, I would still love her as my D.
The reason for the length of your R with SS is because while I am sure that you feel you have a great bond with SS... only he knows how he feels about you.
Considering his R with his mom as you describe it... well... if it came down to her or you... only he knows where his loyalties would be.
If his mom chose to welcome OW into SS's life and you did not... only your SS knows how he would deal with that lovely triangle...
It does sound like you believe that your H's X and you are on the same page.
I'm sure you are not naive and these thoughts are possibly going through your mind.
I would not stand in my D14's way of a R with her bio dad... even considering what he put my W and D14 through... that's not my place...
