I have known H since 1995, and his son was 14 when we started dating.
Yes, the knowledge of OW would be between H and his X. But I was speaking in mother terms, not OW terms. SS is INCREDIBLY close to his mother. She also watches his FB account. She would be asking questions about any 30+ year old woman wanting to "chat" with her son, as I would. (I did the same thing with my younger brother)
I understand what you are saying about SS and his conclusions about OW. There's nothing I can do about that. What I'm saying is, its going to hurt when we tell him. Anything I can do to limit that hurt, I will do.
I'm confused as to your question about the length of my M in reference to my relationship with SS. Does me only being M for 3 years mean I love him less than I would if we had been married longer?
Sorry if I'm confused about your line of questioning, but I don't play around about my SS.
