Remorse? Regret? After blaming everything on you? If you believed half of what he said, would you not think it was the "right" thing to do to leave?
Now to be serious. Whether or not they have regrets or remorse, is not the same as them showing it to you. Mine has gone so far as to say she won't ever apologize for her behavior. But the others are right. Regardless of your reasons for leaving, there is NO excuse for your subsequent behavior toward those you left. None.
Your 30 years together were not a lie. It may feel that way now, but it wasn't. Those were real years. Real happiness. Real love. His actions and his choices indicate a deeper issue and one that only he can deal with.
Many will never admit remorse or guilt or anything else. Those that know them can often see it anyway. Those that don't (the new friends) figure that's normal behavior for them.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
