I have been working out a lot. I have lost about 15 pounds in 3 weeks. Trying to get out there and meet new people. All of our friends are married and their lives are so busy (like mine was). The the alone time is the worst as I can't stop thinking about the love of my life, my children and our broken family, and the status of things.

I find that an important part of GAL'ing is to find things that REALLY interest you. When you are doing something that really gets your fire going, you can actually take a break from thinking about your relationship. It's really nice to get these breaks.

There is so much time so I haven't limited myself to a couple of hobbies and past times. I am trying new things. Even things that are not that interesting. I figure that if I "as-if" them for a while maybe I can get into them.

I have been doing a bunch of 180's. I am getting my hair cut every 4 weeks instead of 8-10. I went out and bought myself some new clothes. I contributed and will be working at a few upcoming charity events. I plan on going to a few social mixers that one of my hobbies does regularly. I am taking a break from coffee and it's been 9 days since I had a cup. I used to drink 3-4 cups in the morning before even getting to work and another 3-4 during the day and sometimes 1-2 in the evening too. Interestingly, this has been easier than I thought. Though, I think the intense anxiety I have about my separation is what helped me make the transition. I have been browsing places to go on trips with my kids. Though, this has been tough because it's really hard to plan the future without my wife in it. It breaks my heart.

An interesting 180...I have been working on doing all chores immediately. For example, I make my bed the moment I get out of bed. Even when I am home alone for days, etc. Like a "practice makes perfect" type of thing. All dishes get washed the very moment they are done being used. Garbage goes out daily. Laundry is a bit frustrating because I have to wait for it to build up before running a wash. Though I look at the clothes hamper everyday to see if its ready.

Lastly, a 180 I am working on is being alone and being comfortable with that. I have gone to a few lunches now solo and actually enjoyed the peaceful time.