She came over on Thursday night and we discussed our finances and what she wants. She wants her own apartment but after doing some calculations we determined it would be impossible with our current debt load. We still have our condo until the end of May so she will continue to stay there for the time being. She told me she is fully prepared to walk away from all her responsibilities and declare bankruptcy if it means she can "get out". Since the majority of our accounts are joint I explained that this would make me solely responsible for the debt and would cause huge problems with my finances. She agreed his wouldn't be fair to me and as a compromise she agreed to move into our house at the end of May. She made it very clear that despite living in the same house we are indeed separated and nothing more then roommates. I tried to be very upbeat and accommodating about the situation.
In some ways I feel a bit trapped. We worked very hard to acquire the things we have and even though she wants to leave me I feel like I have to sacrifice them in order to avoid financial difficulties. If I sell my car I can afford to pay all my other bills including all our join CC's and our LOC. I told her since we got that credit together she can't just walk away an expect me to pay for it on my own. She wants to drastically reduce our monthly expenses and focus on paying off as much outstanding debt as possible in the next several months. Once we are both in a position to Comfortably get by on our own she will move out. That is the plan as it stands now. Part of me wishes she could just leave now but another larger part of me hopes that when we are living together again she will brecognize how much she misses being with me....mayb I'm holding out hope for nothing? We were friends before we got together and when we broke up for six months before we got married we remained good friends then as well. Perhaps me future wont include her as my wife, but I would really miss her as my friend
