par, my heart goes out to you. You are in on of the most difficult situations loved ones face, dealing with a substance where a loved one used to be.

You need help and TG gave you the key, Al Anon or one of the other fellowships for f&f of addicts and alcoholics. There are some pretty good online support groups, too.

You didn't cause it, you can't cure it and you can't control it.

Seek help.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss