I just want to be friends...Pt2

[scaredsilly]

hi yc, i'm trying to let go of resentments, too. i think a big part of my resentments (other than his adult children) were a result of my perfectionism. i've lowered my expectations i put upon myself (a result of growing up with a narcissistic mother)and that, in turn, has helped me to "expect" less from others.
make sense?

it's really freeing and it allows me more time to GAL and more acceptance of others. maybe, because now i'm more accepting of myself?

i also get tense prior to social events and would turn them down because of this. my thoughts were that i would not be good enough in social situations (again, daughter of narcissist).
now, i'm going out by myself and enjoying it. of couse, i would like it better if my H were there but if i can expand my experiences by myself, then i'll be better when, and if, i have a partner. i'm sure the old thoughts will always be there but i'm becoming my own "life coach" and talking myself through it.

i'm still working through all my "stuff" but i also get daily inspirational emails from websites sent to me and that helps me to start the day in a positive frame of mind. i look at "quotes for happiness" on line each day. that helps, too.

just a "love is a decision", i think happiness is a decision. i try to make it at the beginning of each day and also throughout the day because there are always things that happen that can derail it. i need to remind myself of the bigger picture of our lives here and empathize more with the journey of others, too.

hope this helps. i'm a novice here.