Stock check of things my H complained about:

1/ Talking badly about his mother -

this one is hard work but I don't go anywhere near that subject anymore...

2/ Talking 'badly' about his friends -
when they do drugs and drinks tons of alcohol to the point of oblivion, I'm not so sure he has a right for me to be skipping down the road over this one...so please advise thanks!

3/ Screaming at me when I have done something wrong – not letting it go

I have changed this one.

4/ Coming up with weird and exaggerated accusations

I have changed this one too.

5/ That I don't trust him in the kitchen

I have since told him he is a fantastic cook.

Between you and me, at one point, all he made were salads and I got really tired of that. I had to do all the cooking if we were to enjoy a tasty and different meal.

6/I "always" gets tense when social events are coming up -

No opportunity to prove this one one way or another. HOWEVER, I did explain to him that much of my tension comes when he starts getting drunk and boundaries are getting loose (flirting at parties). I anticipate the worst and so I get tense.