Besides DR I'd also suggest reading "How to Save Your Marriage Without Talking About It". However, despite the title, understand going in that you're not going to be able to use many of the theories and strategies. Those are for people not in our sitches. However the insight and thoughts are invaluable.
They will help you understand your W and understand yourself. Also, should you ever get to the point of recon, they will help you then.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD
