Thanks YC. It's hard to see him leave knowing where he's going and knowing he knows I know and that does not stop him.
I don't know how you do it actually. I know I couldn't, which is why I asked him to leave me alone. Of course that hasn't happened but it was a mixture of the two of us not really wanting to 'leave me alone'.
It's hard either way in a difficult sitch.
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He told me when he announced the affair that he knew how I felt about cheating and that I always said if he did that it would be over. So why do I still want to hang on. Is it because I still love him or is it because I don't want to lose the fight?
So, does that mean that he told you because he wanted you to end it? He clearly didn't want to take the responsibility of that one. It's sounds similar to when my H said, "I had to leave, I had no choice in the matter." Bottom line - their logic goes haywire.
But it's a good question about loving him or wanting to win.
In the in-between days that I don't see my H, it's all about winning. On the days I see my H and we interact, I see that it's not about winning at all because remember how good we once were together not long ago and wanting that back, but with improvements.
So, it's not black or white - it's some shade of gray.
Bottom line - their logic goes haywire.
