Kimmerz, Yes, he will go through an euphoric phase for a period of time after the divorce. Why? Because he has been set free from all of the unhappiness that he thought you and the relationship had caused him. That euphoria will go by the wayside and once again, those old feelings of unhappiness will come back once again.
There will come a time that the leopard's spots will show once again. The relationship w/the ow will begin to crack and they both will settle into life and that good old spit and polish will wear off and the ugly spots will return. They can't contiue for a very long time putting on the good front for each other.
There will come a time when he will realize what he's done, but there is no guarantee that he will ever admit it to you. Your h lost everything that was good in his life. His lesson is to learn that happiness comes from within and to realize that outside forces will not help in the long run. He needs to learn to accept himself for who he is and understand that what may have taken place many years ago was not something he had control over, i.e., the lack of admiration, validation, etc.
Time is on your side. You've already suffered through the pain and have grown by leaps and bounds. The knowledge that you have gained will carry you through the days ahead and you will become even stronger than you are right now so that you assist your children as well as others.
One last thing, be kind to yourself. Learn to carve out some time for yourself to do those special things that you want to do.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
