golf mom,
If you can locate your first original posting where Cadet posted the helpful links, you will find the old threads about why they run.

I've copied the links from his "welcome" posting. Hopefully they will work.

Why they run:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=67406&page=1

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...6668#Post526668

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.