i feel your pain. i am in a similar boat. my wife is moving out in a week i think. i have been trying the same things with no results. i too easily take the bait when she wants to argue.

i have been reading alot of the forums. starting to gain an understanding from it. i would start there

m:31 W:32
M:8 T:11
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D:5
Bomb:1/07/12
Separated:4/23/12
Divorced: 12/12/12