Moving Right Along Part 3

[YankeeCandle]

Hi Autumn,

Yeah, just ignore those texts. I get those from my H too - not often though these days. So, it will die down eventually as long as you don't respond.

You're doing good!

[Autumn Leaves]

Thanks YankeeCandle!! I know that is the best thing to do, and he finally did stop thankfully ...for now. Very frustrating when it happens.

My life is so much more peaceful in between. Dropped S15 at baseball, went to the gym, made a later dinner for the boys and now relaxing with a glass of wine. I can't remember feeling peace like this in so long

[chatterbug]

ignore but record

[25yearsmlc]

I have an appt with her at 9:30 tomorrow morning. I am guessing she is catching up but you're right, this is urgent. Good timing for me to schedule and then go away for the weekend

I don't want to bash your L at all, but I hate using solo practioners for this very reason. They need back up for when things are weird or worse for their clients.

If she has partners or assoicates, You CAN contact them for help if it's urgent.

[Autumn Leaves]

Thanks 25, yes she does have 2 partners. Until this morning I hadn't paid anything so I think they were trying to keep it to her only. Going forward I have met the 2 paralegals and one partner, just in case. But she said she will always be with me if we go to court.

I did all of the paperwork this morning and owe them the address of his temporary residence this afternoon. I have to go in on Monday to sign an affidavit and she said it will be filed with the court mid week. She is going to call me before it happens, as it will hit the internet and she wants me to be aware.

I feel a huge sense of relief, other than the money spent. I walked out feeling good and that I am on my right path.

I am heading to my fathers for the weekend and he will be here with the kids tonight through Sunday night. Looking forward to some down time and planning as well.

[Starsky309]

Autumn,

Are you remaining open to possible reconcilation with your husband, even post-D if necessary, if she could clean up his act and demonstrate consistency in that regard?

Do you still love him?

Hard questions for what's supposed to be a casual Friday, I know . . . so shoot me.


Starsky

[mindfull]

Autumn.

I'm jealous of your time at the beach this weekend, as I head out to a soccer tournament! Chaos!!! ( I love it, though!)

Just sending good vibes your way!!!

I'll just reach over and thwap Starsky for his pre-weekend buzz kill!!! (j/k)

[Starsky309]

Yeah, yeah . . . I know, I'm so SERIOUS and all RECONCILE-Y all the time, aren't I???

[Truegritter]

The thing about this is that we should always question all along the way until we don't question any more.

What does that mean?

Starsky's point (i think)

This isn't black and white. It isn't what he did or is doing.

It is about you and how you feel about his. i don't mean anger. At what he is doing...

I mean about beyond that. You do realize there is life beyond what he decides?

That is the place i speak of. What will make you feel peace?
What choices will bring you there?

Nothing worth anything in life is easy. This is definitly one of them.

The weak people exit way before this point Autumn and there is much more to learn from your journey if you choose to do so.

What am I talking about?

read the VETS thread. We all have different stories but the same result.

You will know without a doubt when you are done. Until then keep going for you.

And only you.

[mindfull]

Starsky. I'd expect nothing less, especially considering your success!!!

Autumn... Hoping the boys are doing good, too!!! Successful Dad time is so good for them!

Funny, my boys and I were talking tonight.. One of my older sons classmates Moms is moving he and his sister in w/her boyfriend. I know all involved, and this is a darling mom and boyfriend, but... She has two teens, and my boys relate because they're in same age group. My boys couldn't stop commenting on how "creepy" it was.

Following up from that, they talked about how strained the R is w/the mom and their Dad... We talked that it was mostly because of finances. I told my boys that it hurts me for them to even know this (other son must mention it) and I very proud of my boys Dad for never making this a problem so far, since it really causes hard feelings...

My S15 says... "Mom, I know you and Dad have disagreements about financial stuff, like our old house (we've talked about it). But, you never let it make you so angry at him that it makes us feel weird."

All I could think was. Give me an Academy Award!!!!

I tell you this because our boys are of similar ages, and... These boys are watching. Even if they seem quiet, uninterested, or not needing to talk. Boy, are they watching.

Thank God they can't read minds!!!