I have a dilemma. OW wrote on my stepson's FB page "We need to chat!!!". Now according to H, my stepson does not know anything about him and OW yet, but she is his FB friend as I have mentioned. H does not check FB often, and certainly not my stepson's page as much as I do, so he probably hasn't seen the post. SS has a lot of Senior stuff coming up, including Senior Prom next weekend, and I'll be d@mned if anything puts a damper on that. He already told me he was excited about it so I know he's looking forward to it.
I want to draw a line in the sand and tell H that I don't want OW talking to SS until we've had a chance to talk to him and explained that we are separating. Butler I'm not sure that's the right thing to do. H doesn't seem to be in a hurry to tell SS, and I don't want this to be the catalyst where he feels he needs to go ahead and say something NOW. Where is all that time you guys keep telling me I have?
Second thing - H has been scheduled for knee surgery on May 8th. I figured I could use this opportunity to foster some goodwill between us. Another one of H's issues is that he feels I'm not attentive and loving enough when he is sick. (My mother once tried to send me to school sick. Turns out I had Scarlet Fever. My mother didn't really allow time for sickness, so I ended up treating H the same way).This could be an opportunity for me to do a HUGE 180! I also think that H knows me well enough to know that once we tell the family, he'll have to leave the house. I highly doubt he plans to do that before his surgery. Especially since he's already talking about where he can be set up once he's home recuperating. (It's only orthoscopic surgery so the downtime will be less than a week)
