hydrocodon, soma and pretty much any prescription drug that she can. You are right. She is not thinking clearly. She does this all the time. She goes awhile being good and then she falls off the wagon and does the strangest things like got married to a guy she just met, wreaked 5 cars and gets arrested.
Wow Par4... I have not finished reading your thread but I will. You sure have a lot going on.
Before I go on, there are things we need to know in order to better advise you.
First off how long have you been married?
is this your first marriage? Hers?
Do you Any kids and if yes, whose children are they? How old are they? Where are they? What do you want?
I mean, of course we know you want all to be well and fine but more immediately, how can we best help you?
If you want us to question your course of action, double check motivations, and make sure you are on track, that's fine.
If you simply want us to validate leaving her, that's much harder b/c this is a pro-marriage site
and we would urge you to leave no stone unturned before you end your marriage. Do you feel that you have left no stone unturned already?
I ask mainly b/c I don't see you having done the Div Busting approach yet -so I can assure you that there IS a stone that you have not turned over.
Also, Do you believe addiction is a disease, or a character flaw?
If it's a disease, even if only partly, then where do your marriage vows "in sickness and in health" fit in?
And finally, have you READ the book(s) that form the basis for our approach here? It's crucial you do that. You'll get way more out of this site AND the book contains great specific advice for various situations including substance abuse.
it's not a "re-hash the past" or "re-live the traumas of it all" approach; it is a solution based approach to relationship problems.
While that sounds simple and in some ways it is, it's radically different from most approaches.
W/a Solution based focus - we hone in only on what
YOU CAN DO to help the marriage,
and what NOT to do that hurts the marriage....
Are you up for that?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
