Those are only suggestions. But what will help is you stop being afraid of your W and start doing something.
You have to take control back. That's not to say you have to be mean or forceful, but you have to start establishing something to get your life back in order.
You can start by spending more time with your son. It doesn't matter if your W doesn't think you can take care of him. If you know and think you can, then do it. He's your son too. Not just hers.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.