am i better off without him?

[scaredsilly]

thanks, accuray. i agree with your advice and opinions. i sent her this text several hours ago:
"Would like to meet you for lunch one day soon. Whatever happens, I would like us to clear the air between us and put any negative things to bed. Of course, you can refuse but we do have a long history of caring for each other and it was pretty special for me."
three hours later, no response. we'll see what she's made of. i figure she'll call her dad. i don't see her wanting to set things right because if things are right, there could be a chance for her dad and i. also, she would not be getting as much sympathy and attention from him then. (sigh)

i will not mention it to H. if he does, it would probably (if the past is any indication of the future) be to tell me that she's been hurt too deeply or doesn't want a relationship with me, blah, blah, blah. i think i'll just say, "i'm sorry she feels that way" and let it go. as you've said, i tried and that's all i can do. i can only control myself and i will have, at least, made the effort an adult should make. i can't fix the guilty daddy/wounded-baby-girl thing they have going.

one more thing: your opinion that, "...it may get worse before it gets better". can you expand on that? what do you foresee?

thank you for taking the time to help me. you guys are all life savers and your experience is so very valued.