KD, I see where you're going, but I'm talking from a perspective of processing anger in a healthy way - not whether it should exist or for how long. Letting it be the helpful emotion that it is - the alert to "I need to set a boundary here" and "What needs to be protected/restored" b/c that's how, I believe, anger can be used in healthy ways and move through us (not get stuck, explode or repressed). If it sounded like May were processing her anger in a healthy way, then maybe this wouldn't be a point to make here, but since she attached her husband and is having trouble understanding if she should or shouldn't be angry or thinking maybe her husband is avoiding her b/c of her anger, I think it could be helpful to her to use her anger as a helpful tool to see what she needs and how she can communicate that - that's what anger *can* teach us if used well. Does that make sense? (I don't want to get into a discussion and hijack to much - just clarify my intentions with post about this) of course, DIM will do whatever she wants! I'm just putting it out there.
