I didn't see it coming part 2

[breakdownbill]

She openly tells me a few weeks ago that she's not going to stop dancing with him & doesn't care what I think. That has been replaying in my head over and over & it just makes me angry.

So... her tactic is working, then...??

Only YOU can stop that, bill...

Any thoughts on how?

Well I was handling it a lot better the past 3 weeks, by not thinking about it. I mean she does go with her friends as well & hasn't been coming home late from the dancing lesson or on her phone anywhere near as much, plus she's not going out anywhere near as much as she used to. Either she really has cooled things right off with the dance partner or she's just got better at hiding it. It's all a matter of trust for me on that front.

BTW: Of course she cares what you think you silly rabbit...

She WANTS you to be mad... that's just another form of caring...

So, just to clarify do you think my W wants me to be or show that I'm angry about this? - Oh man, women are such head workers sometimes!!

Thanks KD

I think that I can only really detach further away while she is acting out like this & not get drawn into it. Just need to get back on board with it & not let my emotions get anywhere near the surface at the moment.

Your post has made me think about these interactions & manipluations quite a lot. I think I need to reflect a bit more on these, because I clearly don't understand women well enough when it comes to this stuff.

Bill