Sometimes, a "one day at a time" approach actually works for me.
Tonight, instead of anxiety and insomnia, I found a good emotional space right before I went to sleep.
I realized, "Just for today I'm sure there was no OP, just me."
It's not exactly detaching, but it was enough to put my anxiety in a little box, then put it on a shelf. It makes it so I can be able to get back to detaching.
And today, is a better day.
(formerly crushd) Married 14 yrs M41/W43/D7/S4 M: MLC, major depression/W: WAW Bomb 2/26/12, 2 days before anniversary Detachment, Grown Apart, "I love you like the father of my children", EA/PA?