My heart goes for the pain of this situation but you're in one of the best places to grow.
What about me? I was 52 when my husband of 25 years left, just left after saying it was all my fault. I later found out it was to the home of his much younger paramour who he has since married and have a child. My three kids at the time were 13, 17 and 21. Early on in our marriage we'd agreed that I'd stay home with the kids as he aggressively pursued his career.
Why am I successful? Well.. I'd have been more successful if I knew what I know now! But then again there is that pesky learning curve. Taking the hard knocks to learn and grow, regardless of divorce or reconciliation, teaches you how to have a healthy relationship.. with your self and others.
What is success? For me it was a combination of things. Reading the DB book among others, coming here and learning from others and going to a counselor all while desperately treading in a vortex of emotional chaos and pain.
Some simple rules to live by:
1. My signature below my name.
2. If it's right, do it If it feels wrong, don't. If you can't decide or waffle, the answer is no.
3. It's not the fall, but how you regain your balance.
And since my posts are usually wayyyyy too long posts, I'll just stop for now.
