Thank you everyone for your support, I really appeciate it. All your words are a comfort.
I guess given his actions for the majority of this past year, and the fact he moved directly on with OW, well to me that looks like he has ZERO regrets, and ZERO unhappiness, and that he's too the moon with his new life.
Quite frankly I figure the only thing he's uncomfortable with is the fact he's offered to pay me an extra 125.00 in spousal support, and that he does NOT get to see his kids as near as much as he wants. Other than that he appears like he's fine and dandy, happy with his life and happy with his divorce. He has a woman that meets all his needs and also has alot of common interests as he does, his house is surgically clean with no "real life" messes. His house is full of junk food and all the play toys you can imagine (tv's, computers, video games, new furniture, stereo's) you name it.
Ok one thing I can tell you about him....he appeared to always be looking for that " high" in something new. New video games, new movies, new tv's, new gamins systems, new computers, just new, new, new, buy, buy buy. Don't even ask about our credit card debt we've wiped out 2 times because of it. I remember him telling me that he has purchased some nice things for us last year ( new t.v., new cell phones, gaming system for kids-dear god we only had 3 systems! like we need another????) and that it still didn't help him feel happy.
So Yes, Im wrapped up in what I've seen make him feel instantly gratified to buy him some happiness time. Given he couldn't control NOR SPEAK to me of the real issues we had that take real work...he dealt with it like he does everything else. WE GET A NEW ONE. So he got a new OW since the wife just didn't do it for him. Oh have mercy....
You know what? If it ever hits home with him, what he did and truthfully why he did it.....I think it will devastate him. But it just might save him too.
I hope he learns...because if he doesn't he'll just keep running.
