Is BDay gift buying pursuing? I didn't see it that way, but maybe it is.
It's not so much whether WE see it as pursuing... unfortunately, it appears that is just the way the WAS sees it... you could be yelling at him and he'd think you were pursuing him...
As for the "time" issue... that's exactly it. Time is just time, but when you are ready to let go the rope... you're just ready... setting time frames sets us up for disappointment if we aren't ready by them...
You're doing good it seems... I'm just checking in...
