First identify the things that you need to improve on, physically and interpersonally. Focus on yourself and your changes. Join a support group. Maybe wives of H with PTSD, Alanon, church group or whatever.
This is going to be a longer road than you would like and you need to find support from people who have gone through similar circumstances not just friends/family. Even though the boards are great you need to make connections with people in your area.
Obviously being a mom with 2 kids and 1 on the way doesnt leave you with too much free time but take a class, maybe cooking or yoga or a foreign language or an instrument. Do something for you that your H would never expect you to do. I know I know it cost money too but its so important to take care of yourself right now and be really good to yourself or you will never make it through this.
You are very dismissive of the psychological aspect of your sitch. Just because your H doesnt have a severe case of PTSD doesnt mean a mild case doesnt have harsh consequences. Would you tell someone with Stage 1 cancer not to sweat it.
I dont know anything really about PTSD but I think you should do a lot more research into it and encourage your H to get the best treatment available. You need to be picky and make sure you are getting good treatment. I am sure there are many doctors that can help your H and others that will treat him for months and not get results.
Go to a private MD/shrink if necessary and get your H on medication if he isnt already.
Spend the money and call a DB coach. If your H had cancer you would spare no expense.
From your post you seem to be on the right path. You emphasized that you are staying positive and thats awesome. Dont engage in any relationship talk. Let your H feel relaxed and comfortable with things as they are. Dont try to force him to decide the future today. Right now let him have his space.
Keep posting and post to others that will help you get off moderation faster.
Its a marathon. Hang in there. Dont believe him when he says its over, he cant predict the future.
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