Hang in there antioch, I'm new as well but getting a lot form this forum. I'm pretty much in same boat...W says I don't show enough affection and that she knows I love her but don't like her. It's hard to hear that since I do like her very much...she's my best friend.
I am concentrating on me right now, for me. It's what you have to do as well. He will notice...keep interactions civil and cordial...become mysterious, he'll notice and will begin seeking you out. I know it's easier said than done...and I am not perfect in it either. So hard keeping distant, physically and emotionally, when all you want to do is hold him...and make it all better. My W doesn't want that now, in her mind it's too little too late. But, I know she still loves me, we are good friends...and we don't have any of the big problems...fidelity, physical abuse, addictions, etc. So, I am hopeful but not expecting anything. Your H just needs space to work out his feelings...and hopefully to focus on himself...to get his swagger back. In the meantime, work on yours...again, he'll notice, he married you for a reason...he just needs to reconnect as to why.
Stay strong and focused...and use "us"...it's what we're all here for; and there are some real good, caring people on here that have been there, done that.
M: 44 W: 39 D: 16, D: 14, D: 11 (11 y/o special needs) M: 17 T: 21 1/2 Bomb: 3/18/12 W contacted mediator for D: 3/27/12 Seperated since bomb
Me:44, W: 39 D:16, D:14, D:11(special needs) M:17, T:21+ Bomb:3/18/12 W contacted mediator for D:3/27/12 Separate since bomb Mediation, signed agreement 5/17/12 No talk of D since mediation
and there are some real good, caring people on here that have been there, done that. 