Kimmerz, Please be kind to yourself. I'm sorry that your divorce date has come and it will be over soon. No one wins when there is a divorce on the table. However, you are a survivor and I want you to know that once you find your footing, you will be okay. It may take a while, i.e., cloudy/dreary days will come and go, but one day you will discover that the sun will begin to shine again.
Don't set the bar so high that you can't jump it. Take duties and responsibilities and and tackle them one by one, don't attempt to tackle them all at once. Accept that there are going to be times that you will not get everything done or the way you want it.
I want you to understand that he's not happy about this situation either, but he's on a runaway train that even he can't stop because he's in a crisis and must take that train all the way to the very end. Now, whether he's willing to ride it to the end or stop along the way, that is his choice and there's nothing any of us can do to help him.
Kimmerz, please, please take care of yourself. We are here for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
