She doesn't know I'm monitoring her at all. When she was texting the OM she was sending around 1700 texts a month (she texts her friends a lot too). Last month she sent less then 600. She does still work with the guy but I don't think that's what this is about.
She wants to get together and talk on Monday and I don't think it will be positive She wants to total up all our debts and go through the payments so I think she is planning on finding her own place. I need to try and convince her to move into our home, even as roommates at the end of next month. Financially her leaving right now will cripple us both. Everything we own is bought on credit and is joint. We would need to make arrangements to sell both our new cars, we bought a boat in August that would need to go. Plus LOC and CC's. It's mind boggling and overwhelming to consider trying to undo 9 years of a life together in a few short weeks. How do I approach this and convince her it's in her best interest??
She wants to total up all our debts and go through the payments so I think she is planning on finding her own place. I need to try and convince her to move into our home, even as roommates at the end of next month. Financially her leaving right now will cripple us both. Everything we own is bought on credit and is joint. We would need to make arrangements to sell both our new cars, we bought a boat in August that would need to go. Plus LOC and CC's. It's mind boggling and overwhelming to consider trying to undo 9 years of a life together in a few short weeks. How do I approach this and convince her it's in her best interest??
