Day One of . . .Year One??

[BeingMe]

It must've hurt so much not being informed about the birth. You were their mother for so long, and the grandmother of their children, and it seems they have chosen OW over you. But, it's not that simple, as you know. They have chosen to keep the channels open to their father, and that appears to mean no contact with you or their step-siblings. They are probably being told his whacko version of the break-up. I bet they don't know about the OW's brief theft of your ID (am I getting this right?). You just don't know what cr@p they're being told, and they would want to believe their father.

I agree with T and S and you ... let it go. If they had any love for you, they will realize what they're doing, if they're good people. Otherwise, they were never truly yours, and you have to let them go, as you had to let xh go. Time will lessen the pain, dull the memories. How are your children feeling about this?