Moving Right Along Part 3

[purgatory]

Hello Autumn!! I haven't checked in with you in a while... so sorry.

It's so nice to read that you are feeling good and having more positive days!

I hate when the WAS tries to provoke us into a discussion when it's already been resolved. It sounds like he's either not paying attention when you have these talks, OR (more likely) he's trying to find an excuse to engage you in a discussion- possibly a fight just so he can blame you for something. My H is guilt of this- he seems to purposely pick topics that used to be triggers for a fight, almost like he wants me to loose it and start yelling... I piss him off even more when I *don't* react the way he's expecting! i can literally see his face deflate as he realizes that he was bracing for a fight... it's a good feeling

I think its SUPER smart for you to have documentation of your communications- especially when it comes to the kids and finances. It will help give you credibility if things get nasty, and it also gives you proof when H says he's doesn't remember agreeing to something.

It's no fun to have to create a business relationship with someone who used to be so intimate with you.... but it will serve to protect you and the kids in the long run.

So impressed with how far you've come emotionally in your journey!