The boys ended up having a nice visit with H last night. I'm glad they did. I think they just needed to break the ice, and realized that they do miss him.
He texted me to tell me he was leaving and thank me.
This morning I told him that he should have more time with them if he wants, it is best for the boys. He was thrilled and thankful, and told me he would send suggestions later.
I really hope my L is in today, she has been out the past 2 days. While we are setting visitation and finances ok now, things can change if he gets upset and I just want to be protected.
I'm feeling really good. I've been so incredibly happy, which is nice. The nice weather in my area doesn't hurt too!
Just a quick check in, really not too much to say which is ok with me. No news is good news, right?
Even H is agreeable, which is so nice!! We are slowly separating everything and we both agree that it is working for the best of all involved. The peace that we all craved for so long.
April thank you so much, I just read your thread briefly and will come back to it shortly. Just have a few things going on at work but promise to respond in a bit.
Having a good morning and really feeling good. Just got a text from H that was quite manipulative. I ignored it. There was nothing to respond to.
Still no word from the L. I think she is out sick because when I call they say "we hope she will be in tomorrow". I really hope to hear from her soon.
H will be here with the boys all weekend. I am going to my dads. Some beach time is good for me. I plan to take one of the bikes and tour around the island for a while. Good exercise and fun too!
Still strong but getting quite a few passive aggressive emails and texts from H this morning. It is very frustrating to say the least. I am deleting them. I answered one that was about visitation and his weekend, but we had already discussed it yesterday so clearly it was his way of getting a response.
Autumn it sounds like you are doing well. Ignore what you can from the H--its just their way of trying to keep control of the situation. I have learned that not responding makes me happier. And right now, its all about me!!!!
Hello Autumn!! I haven't checked in with you in a while... so sorry.
It's so nice to read that you are feeling good and having more positive days!
I hate when the WAS tries to provoke us into a discussion when it's already been resolved. It sounds like he's either not paying attention when you have these talks, OR (more likely) he's trying to find an excuse to engage you in a discussion- possibly a fight just so he can blame you for something. My H is guilt of this- he seems to purposely pick topics that used to be triggers for a fight, almost like he wants me to loose it and start yelling... I piss him off even more when I *don't* react the way he's expecting! i can literally see his face deflate as he realizes that he was bracing for a fight... it's a good feeling
I think its SUPER smart for you to have documentation of your communications- especially when it comes to the kids and finances. It will help give you credibility if things get nasty, and it also gives you proof when H says he's doesn't remember agreeing to something.
It's no fun to have to create a business relationship with someone who used to be so intimate with you.... but it will serve to protect you and the kids in the long run.
So impressed with how far you've come emotionally in your journey!
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
which is ok with me. No news is good news, right? 
I hear ya mindfull 