I was thinking about you the other day and realized that you are growing the next crop of fast food hamburger (you said you had corn and soybean, right?)... so I figured I'd order a double bacon cheeseburger in advance...
When you say "alone", I'm guessing you mean it as in, "no romantic relationship"... and that could be very true for her... but not alone...
My own experience with my W was for the first year (I don't want to scare you with length of time or the fact that my W and I will likely be D by fall of this year) my W was out a lot, including with OM or "OM like" people, in which I have plenty of picture and video evidence of a woman who is... well... behaving with these men in ways that a single, prowling school or college girl might...
yeah... that didn't work so well for me...
But for at least the past 6 months or so, that behaviour has changed significantly. She is out a lot with friends, yes... or having friends over... but they are just gurl-frens for the most part for chick flicks and a bottle of wine... and yes, OM might be part of that "group"... but as my W said recently... and I may be naive to believe this, but this doesn't come just from my W... is that she has no "romantic" relationship with anyone...
Point is, it is possible that your W will not be alone and moping, like we'd all like to see our spouses once the separation occurs... nope... that doesn't happen so much... they more likely surround themselves with their support group and try to pretend that life is "normal"...
It seems to work for them... you might want to try it...
I think it's hard for the LBS to understand... yes, there are many betraying spouses out there who DO shack up with an OP... but in some many cases... don't forget why they "left" us...
'cause they "lost that lovin' feelin'"... not for us... they lost it... like they lost their capacity to do so... with anyone... and lord knows they probably tried to find it for us... or for the OP... or themselves... but they just can't... those who are "involved" with an OP may just be going through the motions or at best... the "rituals"... of an intimate relationship...
