I have been on here over 4 years, divorced nearly 4 years. I have 4 wonderful kids and some great friends and family.
Why I am successful: I am happy in my own skin. I am not defined by a relationship or lack of one. I put the needs of my kids right up there with mine and we got through it. I took responsibility for my part of problems in our marriage but not for his choice in having an affair which was the nail in the coffin. I took lessons I learned in other parts of my life and applied them to my life now.
What techniques I used:
I stopped going down cheese less tunnels. I got out of my comfort zone and made myself do something's I wasn't used to doing. I did a 180 in that I stopped focusing on him and making him see reason and moved the spotlight on to me and how I wanted my life to be. I clipped out pictures of places I wanted to go, pictures of confident, care free women and focused on the positives. I stepped back from situations that were too hard for me. I helped people that were just a bit behind me in the process. This helped a great deal.
I will try to come by. This has been a hard place for me to visit. Another step to work on.
Best wishes, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
