Thank you LeafTurner...you are right about the changes. I have to make sure these are for me only, since we did backslide especially. I know I have made consistent changes since 2008 but not enough for her right now. And, of course, all she's focusing on are the negatives. Her changes never materialized either...but I was able to forgive her back then and still can because I truly did recommit in 2008, but obviously no on is perfect. Unfortunately it appears she expected me to be and feels that all our woes are my fault.

My gut tells me that we are meant to grow old together...all other aspects of our R are very good...hopefully this space she needs will make her realize this and the changes I've been making are for real.

Me:44, W: 39
D:16, D:14, D:11(special needs)
M:17, T:21+
Bomb:3/18/12
W contacted mediator for D:3/27/12
Separate since bomb
Mediation, signed agreement 5/17/12
No talk of D since mediation