I think the key to all these trust issues, is what a lot of the more experienced Vets on here say, 'Don't believe half of what they say or what they do'.
The reason you can't find a rationale within yourself to trust your W, is because no matter what angle you look at it.. it's still broken.
I'm in the same boat - living with someone who has deceived me for a very long time, has confessed most of whatever she's done & has done very little if anything to regain my trust.
Until things change I won't trust my W and may never be able to trust her again (trust is earned and only YOU know if you trust someone- whoever they are).
Even if your W does confess to some things, trust me you'll always think they are holding back more information (they usually are). When someone lives a lie, they get used to doing it & start being their own cr*p to be the truth, because their take on things is always justified by something the LBS has either done or failed to do.
You are struggling with this & it's stopping you from moving forward at the moment.
Be honest with yourself & find out if this is a deal breaker for you & think about what you want from a relationship.
If it's not a deal breaker, you've got to find a way to compartmentalize this issue & crack on with the rest of your 180's & self improvements.
In the same cr*ppy boat & know exactly how you feel.
Bill
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
