why not write a letter that you post here first? We can offer to help or review it so you don't begin it with an apology BUT then add "BUT" so that you can justify yourself a few sentences later. It happens a lot.
It'd have to be done so YOU KNOW you said it to her, NOT b/c you expect something in return and you don't get to be hurt or angry if silence is the answer.
Frankly, the best case realistically, is that you'd plant a seed of doubt in her.
B/C I think when you say you "own your part" you MAYBE glossed or skimmed it b/c the examples you gave of you "trying" were admittedly short lived and
when she wasnt ready for sex, you withdrew the attention. To a woman that reeks of manipulation and insincerity.
What struck me the most is what she told the mc about HER parents.
Her mom stayed married to her dad, b/c her mom knew SHE was the most important person in her h's life. That's what your w wants from you -I strongly believe that. But you don't seem able to give it in any sustained way OR,
without conditions attached...(like a quick return on your "investment" = sex)
rather than the sheer joy of just GIVING LOVE to someone without an expectation of pay back attached. B/c then it's just a trade, it's not a gift of love.
Just some thoughts...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
