Yes I knew he had moved BUT I thought since he wanted to buy a house in MY hometown THAT meant something. I mean WHY else would he buy a house here and drive an hour to and from work everyday? He could have bought a house closer to his work place. I did ask him that a long while back and he said he liked the town and I was a bonus. When it comes to his feelngs, he shuts down big time!
No I know he alone time isnt going to change. When he is here at home we do things together. I honestly DONT want him under my feet all the time. I like it when we watch a movie or eat together or go out to do those things and then come home to our own private rooms until bedtime. If he would have been happy with his job he would have not moved. His job was making him miserable so he took the next job that came open with intentions of coming back within a year. Thats what he said but now he is stuck. He has never lived with anyone since high school for long, not even his wife. He went over seas shortly afterwards I was hoping he loved me enough to change I guess. We get along way better when I am not needy. I cant change either, I love attention and I am a very much attention giver.
Yes Punkin I did go looking too soon and now after almost three yrs. I dont want to start over.
People keep saying to be alone....I am alone and have been since he left. We only spent a yr. in the same house. I pay my own way, buy my own things etc. Sometimes I get very lonely though.
I have said to him that we are not compatible and that I did not think he was that into me maybe and that I would understand if he told me so. To be fair to me and let me go to find someone else. He gets angry and says he isnt holding me back and to bounce. I say to him if you dont love me please just say so. He says I love you and care alot about you but you are over the otop with love and stuff. He says he dont see why we need to tell each other every day that we love each other. We should automaticaly should know that.
Are there people out there really like that. My xh told me EVERYDAY adn sometimes more than once a day. Maybe I am expecting that because I was use to that.
I dont want to be needy. I want to be a challange. A challange is very attractive to someone.
