LIO, you've got spunk. I know only a few women like you and it's always... interesting.
You should start to get some feedback in a bit. Partly due to the moderation needs when people first register and also partly due to folks being focused on current members, newbie threads can get lost.
Consider yourself found.
I admit I skimmed your first post but will have to go through your posts again. I have a pretty good feel for where you are currently at based on the last couple.
Yes, confronting the OP is not recommended. Thankfully it went fairly well for you and it "appears" that you have her co-operation... but... in past experience with others in your sitch (IRL and here)... you may find a smoke and mirror condition come into play as your H makes a case to OW or some new OW...
You have some great boundaries in place and going LRT is likely the right move ATM as is holding to the 37 rules...
While you are doing that, consider... your actions towards him appear punitive... and you have every right to be angry, upset, frustrated...
How long are you planning on keeping him in the dog house... because... well... let's just say that I have a feeling that you would otherwise be letting him back into his life within a relatively short period of time and things will be back to "normal" for you and him...
4 or 5 OWs over the last 15 years and you keep taking him back... and have a child with him... sounds like a pattern, there...
Any plans on breaking that habit?
Since your here on the DB forums now... now is the time to look at that pattern and how / why it keeps repeating itself ('cause that's what patterns do) and what you might do to change that.
