We started marriage counseling & now he wants out

[Maggie3]

I agree with 25yrs- I have made so much progress with myself and my beliefs of this situation and my part in it without my husband living here. He had me believing his thoughts/ memories on our marriage. Then I woke up and was feeling brainwashed. Regardless of what happens, I enjoyed the last 7 years of my life with him and will not let him take that and those memories away from me. My counselor explained it well- she said in his instability he is like a top spinning and I was watching and getting dizzy. Now he is gone and I cannot watch and am no longer dizzy. I think/ hope once he moves out you can focus on you and really be able to DB. I'm lonely at night without him here (no kids)- but I'd way rather be lonely and read or watch tv or talk on the phone then spend my nights engulfed in tension and walking on eggshells. I hope you find the same.