punkin, I'm glad you spoke up. I would fight this battle until xh's debts were his solely. Why should you have to pick up the tab for his debts after all of this time?
I think it's funny that everyone involved, i.e., lawyer, judge and your BFF all came to the said place for lunch.
Happy Easter! Maybe you will find the golden egg under a shrub!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Judge decided that 'the math was appropriate' and lowered my alimony ( which I am now 4 months owed) I feel my L dropped the ball in a certain respect, but then . . . I'm still dipping into his pocket every month in a state that rarely awards alimony at all. I still get half of his retirement, draw off his Social Security, and have medical insurance for my lifetime. All in all, I really don't have anything to whine about.
I am more than ready to just get this all behind me. It will make my own life a lot simpler, and that is something I crave.
Mowed my yard today, ahead of storms that are supposed to hit our area tonight and tomorrow. Had my D25 with me for 2.5 days last week, as she was diagnosed with influenza and had to come home to Mom. Still making litte improvements to my house in dibs and dabs. Life is never easy, but is improving. I still have weak moments of self-blame/self-pity, but WTH.My glass is definitely half full.
Good for you for standing your ground on the alimony. Hopefully, even though it was lowered, your XH coughs up what he's in arrears on soon.
Know what you mean by having to do the improvements on the house in bits. It's all so expensive, but I am like you, grateful that I'm able to do it even in small increments.
Keep your eye to the sky and stay safe, my friend.
Snodderly my xh wants no part in my life and I truly believe he wants my son to have no part. He is still angry and could care less. How does his reaction fit into this? Three years and the anger still exists. This really bothers me that he hates me. It bothers me more for my son. I dont feel like I am in a good place right now.
Punkin, I'm sorry to hear that the judge ruled in favor of the stated alimony. However, as you stated, you are one of the "lucky" ones to get alimoney in the state you live in. I hope that your xh coughs up the money he owes you and soon.
I saw where your state was due to get some severe storms. I hope that you are okay.
I think you are a very positive lady who is looking at the glass as half full, i.e., unlike the mlcers who are looking at the glass as half empty.
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Man is born with certain innate fears, such as the fear of falling, the fear of the dark, the fear of lobsters . . . the fear of lobsters falling on him in the dark.
Point being, the fears that we spend so much brain energy worrying over are usually a load of crap. I relate that to my fear/hurt that my former in-laws just embraced the new wifey, aka OW, and I no longer count for s__t after 20 plus years of being there for them. My higher thinking knows that they are in as difficult a position as our children, and that they are trying to make the best of it, but the bad thoughts are still circling in the back of my mind looking for an opening to strike.
My in-laws recently resettled to be near XH, moving 350 miles to a town where they know no one but their son. I know that Dad wouldn't have done such if he didn't think he needed to be near him for one reason or another. Perhaps the blinder's are off.
All I do know, is that it will be harder than ever to hide his drinking, etc. with his Dad and brother both hanging around.
Punkin, Maybe there is more to the picture than meets the eye. Your former in-laws most likely know that there is something seriously wrong w/their son and the move just might be a type of "intervention" w/respect to the drinking.
The new wifey is really going to have issues now because the in-laws are going to be right there in the same area and it's going to be difficult to put on a good front all of the time.
I do believe the house built on sand will begin to crumble as time moves along.
The message from your Church was a good one.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Having a moment. One of those where you want to take several Ambien and forget.
My DIL (stepson's wife) gave birth this evening. Her third. I was present for the other two. Didn't hear about it from any of them, just from D's who saw it on FB. D25 called to tell me because " you know they wouldn't take the time" She resents the fact that they don't treat me the same, and by that I mean include me like before. I understand that is a bit difficult, especially with Xh's wifey pushing herself into every family function. D25 resents not being asked to BD parties, baby showers, etc. Feels they should be taking a stand for me. I know better. Blood IS thicker, and it's a prickly situation. I just hurt for her hurting. It is true that my girls try to include their step-nieces and step-nephews, and it doesn't seem to be reciprocated. Rock and a hard place, for sure. SIGH
