He is a very kind hearted man but can also be Controlling.
If you know this, and simply tolerate it for the sake of the R, you either like it or are dependent upon the R. Think he'll change for you?
He has moved quite a bit in the past, taking promotions (gov.). He has only stayed in one state for over 3 yrs. and that was the state I am in.
Knew it going in
He had/has a hard time adjusting to living with someone. He enjoys his space to an extreme. (He is an introvert).
Still expecting a change?
My fear is nothing will change.
HELLLLOOO
He has NO idea when and if he will get to come home and maybe he will have to move even further away. He isnt ready to marry and neither am I really. he isnt staying in the state he is in, so I am not moving there and he doesnt want me to unless i get my own place. He feels like we should have never moved in together and doesnt want to again unless we are married. He says he is just mot ready for that.
I really dont know what to do. There are times, like tonight, on the phone with him, that I want him to tell me if he is coming home soon, but he cant. I dont want this to go on forever. Not knowing is miserable. At any time he could move even further away. I dont want to push him and ask over and over gain. What do I do? Just sit back and wait on him to come home or move further away?
Maybe I let myself get into a relationship too soon after my divorce. I dont think I gave myself time to heal. I love this man and dont want to be hurt again. I just want to be happy.
Sunshine, you answered all your own questions. If you are not happy now, and you apparently aren't, why do you think things are going to improve with someone who moves away from you, doesn't want you to live with him, and only sees you as 'a convenience'
