Thanks Kaffe,

You're right man, the mind reading was my Waterloo. I am still mind reading but the list was so scattered and the themes so much the same I think she is denying it. The old me would deny her from the service but I'm not going to do that. I'll continue contributing to my stepkids 529k's instead, for them not for her.

I'm very disappointed in myself that I didn't handle this the right way. The ecards were bad enough but obviously I shouldn't have taken her phone call. I am in a much better place than I started here, largely in part to you guys feedback. I am very busy with many gal activities including courting a few very attractive and successful ladies. They know my situation in that the book isn't closed so I'm just enjoying my freedom for now.

The thing that I know is despite my flippant nature on here due to the hurt of the day, is that I truly love my wife and stepkids. I have effectively "got my mojo" back, know that I am going to be successful and happy regardless of this outcome, and that I will land with a more than wonderful woman, first choice being my wife, as there a few pining for me now.

But all that said, I wish my W would show up on my doorstep tonight wanting to talk. Hell she could be engaged to the OM for all I know, I haven't seen her since February. Haven't really thought about that until my tirade today. Maybe that's progress!

I know I'm going to get some 2x4 for dating, but as far as I'm concerned I wouldnt be gal without doing so.

Thanks again Kaffe and good luck to all in your respective sitch's!


me 38
W 30
T 3
M in 05/2010
Separated 08/2011
Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8
I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5
Anxiously waiting on the judge!