I don't think one can really take the culture out of the context... no matter how "Western" one wants to become (and I'm not real sure why people want to embrace "Western" philosophies)...
Think about this... I KNOW love is a feeling... that BY CHOICE is something I GIVE...
I know lust is a chemical condition that occurs in my brain and is temporary... I can not force that condition to continue...
Western culture appears to have a way of choosing first by lust... and then continuing by choice... under that claim of (that individual's understanding or perception of) love...
While lust COULD occur upon meeting one's life partner in an arranged marriage... it is common ground and a desire to love and to give love (along with the cultural / social repercussions) that allow for those unions to thrive...
Although I am sure that both of you will have your misgivings at this time... The two of you can both CHOOSE love and ACTS of love to make this work in a healthy way...
