I wish I wasnt at all hopeful that she will say something to snap H back to his senses. But I have a sliver of hope.
The longer I'm in this and the more I read I don't think it would help if Jesus came to visit our WAS and say something to them to help them snap out of it. They are on a path of their own that for some reason they must take. Nothing we can do but work on us and be the best we can be.
I'm glad he's spending time with your girls, they deserve to have their father in their lives, albeit not as much as you would like.
And sorry about your SIL.
Try to enjoy some time off. You deserve some "BK" time as hard as it can be to do something enjoyable for yourself.